Reading the scenario at the original website, I was having a lot of trouble with it. A woman walks up to a man at a bar and asks him to buy her a drink. His correct response is supposed to be to say something insulting to her, as the response she's hoping to get, because it displays that he's aware of the proper social jockeying that she's really proposing.
As opposed to my (catlike) response of "Yeah, right. Get your own drink" (which is still not the same as the suggested wrong response of "What kind of drink would you like?"). It may also be that I'm reading this wrong because I am not socialized as a male and I don't hang out in bars.
I do not get it. The expected social behavior is anti-social, both in the begging for drinks and the insults, and just looks broken to me. At a basic level, I don't see the social benefit of making friends with people who don't notice when their behavior is insulting, because then you end up with people who insult you as friends. This is not a worthwhile goal.
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Date: 2010-05-18 03:55 pm (UTC)As opposed to my (catlike) response of "Yeah, right. Get your own drink" (which is still not the same as the suggested wrong response of "What kind of drink would you like?"). It may also be that I'm reading this wrong because I am not socialized as a male and I don't hang out in bars.
I do not get it. The expected social behavior is anti-social, both in the begging for drinks and the insults, and just looks broken to me. At a basic level, I don't see the social benefit of making friends with people who don't notice when their behavior is insulting, because then you end up with people who insult you as friends. This is not a worthwhile goal.