Unsolicited Advice

I've seen a meme about how half of people see unsolicited advice as criticism, and I'm going to give some unsolicited advice on the subject.

I've felt the drive to give unsolicited advice, and I've been irritated by unsolicited advice.
I may have seen unsolicited advice as annoying, but more like redundant or wrong more than as criticism.

I suspect that a lot of people who see unsolicited advice as criticism have spent time in an environment where it actually was criticism. It may well be a mild sort of dominance behavior.

But, if you have a drive to give unsolicited advice, here's some advice on how to mostly not be a plague with in it.

Check to see whether the advice you want to give has already been given. Reading the comments to see whether you're being redundant is a matter of courtesy.

Admit you're playing out your own compulsion. Not just "I felt I had to say", but "I'm being compulsive here".

Admit that you don't know all the facts about the situation. This is true, and you might even come to believe it.

Say "For future reference" to make sure you don't sound like you expect people to hop in a time machine and prevent their current situation from having happened.

This is from a facebook post.

https://www.facebook.com/nancy.lebovitz/posts/pfbid031D2jsPP4CsqH9oC9ez2pcqH8xvmpLmxPCkhe2ovfJXu5p6bbpbdTSZCcTcFk7jnfl