"What do you do instead?", generalized

[nancylebov]

I've been rereading Steve and Connirae Andreas' _The Heart of the Mind_ (neuro-linguistic programming applied to various common problems, some of them serious, and quite a good book), and finding out what to do instead of the behavior you're trying to get rid of is an ongoing theme. People do what they do for reasons--sometimes the reason is important to them, and they need some other way of achieving that goal. Sometimes they're doing what they do because they don't have a strategy for coming up with alternatives, and they need to add a strategy to their repetoir.

Since I know someone is going to ask, neuro-linguistic programming is a recent school of psychology based on the premise that people act in accordance with their model of reality. The best way to change behavior is to change the model.

Comments

[ritaxis.livejournal.com]

NLP is a complex bag of science, scam, and strangeness. Check out John Grinder and Richard Bandledr, the founders of the thing.

Local scandals, that sort of thing.

[nancylebov.livejournal.com]

I know things have been messy for and between Bandler and Grinder, though I haven't followed the details. Steve and Connie Andreas seem to pay alot more attention to benevolance and side effects.