Hugging and such from behind

[nancylebov]

shadesong just posted rather emphatically about why people should not attempt to massage her without checking first, and this includes not massaging her while hugging.

This reminded me of how much I dislike being hugged from behind. I really prefer knowing who it is first.

These years, I could probably pull my act together to pull away or say I don't like it, but in the past, there've been a lot of times when I didn't have the mental bandwidth or other resource to be clear on the subject.

So, how do you feel about being hugged or massaged by someone you didn't see before they started? Do you give a general permission to some people but dislike it if there's no prior permission?

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[dr-zrfq.livejournal.com]

I'm easily startled, so if I don't know you're there before you start the hug or massage, I'm not happy about it. That doesn't mean I have to *see* the person; if someone *whom I know* announces their presence audibly, that's okay.